With the advance of modern progress, we’ve seen an unfortunate digression in parity, that is, equality, not only in the work place but even more so between men and women. This article will try to examine the reasons for the important degradation of women’s participation and place in every day life.
Part of the reason for this degradation has a lot to do with how children are raised. In spite of modern times, girls and boys are still living within the restrictive limits their genders. Boys are boys and girls are girls; any step outside is discouraged and frowned upon. The paradox is that quite a few activities that were always considered feminine are those in which men have not only excelled but also monopolized. Why is it that the world’s best chefs (cooks) are men? Why are the most popular restauranteurs (owners of restaurants, very often chefs) men who were able to not only obtain funds to create their enterprise but also have full houses every night? When women jump into the kitchen and put together just as good a meal as the men, sometimes a little better because of female ingenuity and intuition, they are not as well accepted as the opposite gender and less qualified for loans to create their own enterprise. This goes for all professions.
Why? Because they are women. Whatever the color of their skin, whatever their origins, the greatest impediment for women in today’s world is their gender. They may be scientists, respected professionals in their fields, hold high level degrees, be excellent multi-taskers, yet when it comes to merit and recognition they are given the back bench while men sit right in full lime light. Some of these men have no qualification, skill, just the right gender. It has been scientifically proved that women are indeed better at multi-tasking because of their superior memory and social cognition skills, while men learn to do one thing at a time. Because of this women are better qualified in creating solution for group problems/situations; their approach is mentalistic. This makes them better than men at attention, word and facial recognition as well as social cognition. Women have been found to have smaller brains but more interconnections and interactions; as a result of this their reaction to emotion is higher than men. These interconnections allow women to have a wider, global picture since they use multiple senses and sources, ambiance, touch and visual perception.
As women push into so-called masculine professions they also strive for recognition in these fields. Theirs is an assumed double standard, maternity and professional. Not all women feel “required” to follow this standard; they are nevertheless categorized within it. For quite a few societies any woman who chooses not to “conform” to the “rules” she is either considered a criminal or nonconformist, out of context with her gender. This explains why some of these societies prefer their women ignorant and uneducated, to better manipulate them and control their every move. Here we see there is a great need to encourage women in these societies to Along with this is the idea of recognition, the basis of an unhealthy imbalance in parity. In spite of similar professions and job positions women receive less recognition and merit than men. When awarded recognition they are given “page three” deal while men, worthy or not, are offered the front page.
Ladies, we have it in our hearts and souls to go above and beyond the clichés of society and its rules, assumptions and preconceptions. It’s up to us to make the first move. In past history women who made the first step were humiliated, disgraced or worse, died, for their actions, but they did so knowing that history, not society, will be their redemption. The truth will make you free, they say, and history presents the truth for all to see.
What are we waiting for? Let’s get out there and spread the truth that we are not only capable of performing on the same level as men but also leveling up and beyond them through our past struggles, through our presence, our feminism, that which is not connected to “female-ness” but rather to our ancient historic role as “wise women,” that is, she who knew, held back nothing and gave all … History isn’t about only men.
In most western countries we’ve come a long way; we’ve progressed in a tremendous way compared to our mothers and grandmothers, thanks to modern advancement. At the same time, however there are quite a few industries and professions that belittle womankind. Physical features, youthfulness, etc.; all these are masculine preferences. At the same time other young ladies watch their own be ridiculed, as we see in today’s tele-reality shows. It’s all in fun, they say, but the willingness to be made a fool of should never be requisite or substitute for real talent. Who’s behind it all? Men and their personal pleasure. As soon as an actress or model has “reached her prime” she’s shuffled off elsewhere and replaced by others, and so the vicious cycle continues. What is are behind major beauty contests, fashion shows; what pushes male designers, movie directors/producers to prefer fresh youth over women “squeezed like lemons?” Money. As long as the lady brings in the money, she’s at the top; when she’s lost her “value” she’s dropped and/or exchanged like a used car.
As members of woman-kind we need to break away from assumptions, rules (meant to be broken) and most important, from preconceptions. Girl power is about knowing how to use the powers of our gender to provoke reactions; we have the talent, requirements and motivations, as well as the ambitions. Spread them out in front of us and use them as the road map to perform our major role in life: to be the element that potentially influences and impels changes. Let’s go forth, move, not stopping until we achieve our goal of correcting this serious imbalance. It’s a long and winding road out there; by joining hand in hand woman-kind is given the motivation and power to overcome.
©Joanne Pons, May 2015